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In
her charming new book, Lisa Marie Coffey (Lissa Coffey) brings the timeless wisdom
of Ayurveda to the contemporary audience and shows us how we can discover
more about ourselves and our relationships.
Deepak
Chopra, author of the New York Times bestseller How
to Know God
Applying
ancient wisdom to modern day relationships is beautifully executed by
Lisa Marie Coffey (Lissa Coffey)in her book, Whats Your Dosha, Baby?: Vedic
Insights for Life and Love. She not only shows you what type you are
best suited for, she also shows strengths, compatibilities, and potential
challenges. Read this before you make any personal relationship commitments!
Cherie
Carter-Scott, Ph.D., author of If
Love is a Game
From
the preface:
Ask
anyone and youll get the same answer: Whats the most important
thing in life? Love! We want to be in love, and we want that love to
last. So how do we go about finding that one person to share our lives
with? And how do we live happily ever after with that person once we
find him or her?
There
are many ways of looking at our compatibility with other people such
as the Mars/Venus theories and the Love Signs system based on astrology,
among others. But long before any of these formulas were even a twinkle
in the cosmos, hilosophers and scientists in Ancient India devised a
system of health care called Ayurveda or the science of life. Within
this holistic system lies everything we need to know about love.
Ayurveda
explains the nature of everything in the universe. It is a compelling
way of looking at all of life, the physical, emotional, mental, and
spiritual. Ayurveda "types" people according to their physical
features and personality traits. Ayurveda tells us how we "tick,"
and how we relate to the rest of the world, including the other people
in it! Once we understand the basics of Ayurveda, we see that we can
get along with anyone. There are no "bad" matches! So whether
you want to end the squabbling with your mate, youre having a
hard time with your boss, or your boyfriend just wont commit,
with this system of Ancient Indian Love Matches, youll find ways
to make the relationship work.
It
is impossible to go through this life alone. We all have relationships,
people in our lives we interact with. The purpose of those relationships
is to help us learn and grow. And more than that, the purpose of any
relationship is to help us learn more about ourselves and who we really
are.
When
we understand who we are, and why we are here, everything seems to fall
into place. Were happier, more content, and we feel our connection
to the universe. We attract like-minded people into our lives and our
relationships become stronger.
According
to Ayurvedic wisdom, there are four basic principles of life as discussed
in the Upanishads, the sacred texts upon which Hinduism is built. These
principles form the foundation of Ayurveda, and can be used to help
us understand the role our relationships play in our lives.
There
is an organizing power in the universe. The universe is intelligent,
and creates harmony. There are no accidents or coincidences. Nothing
is random. Everything happens for a reason. What does this mean for
us? The people who are in our lives are there on purpose. What can we
learn from them? How can we help them?
Everything
that exists is living. Everything and everyone is made up of prakriti
(material) and purusha (spirit). We vibrate with the life force inside
of us and all around us. What does this mean for us? A relationship
has a life of its own. How does a particular relationship serve us?
How can it serve the world? How long is it meant to last?
All
existence is interconnected. Everything in the universe, every pebble,
bird, person, rainbow, is connected to every other thing in the universe.
There is no separation between us. What does this mean for us? We are
all connected in some way, shape, or form. So anything we do to another
person, we do to ourselves. We need to be aware of feelings and emotions
in a relationship and not cause any harm to each other.
The
essence of everything is part of That the Divine Creative Force. We
are connected to each other, and connected to the Whole, All That There
Is, at the same time. What does this mean for us? Our actions have repercussions
that resonate in the universe. When were happy and in love, that
love lifts the energy around us. Its contagious! Healthy relationships
are essential to the health of the whole planet.
As
important as our relationships are to us, how much time and effort do
we really put into them? So often we go about living our lives and expect
that another person either fits into that picture or doesnt. But
we each have needs, temperaments, and ideas about how we like things
to be. When we better understand ourselves and each other, we can focus
on what is important and what makes a relationship work.
When
I first learned about Ayurveda, I was impressed with how simple and
clear it made everything to me. The whole system just makes sense, and
you can apply it to anything in your life! Ive read lots of books
about Ayurveda and even more books on relationships, but Ive never
come across one book that applied this age-old system to our very modern-day
relationships. So I decided to work it out myself, and that is how this
book came to be.
Because Ayurveda sees people as three different mind-body types, or
Doshas, there are basically nine different "Love Matches."
Of course in reality, there are an infinite number of ombinations, because
no two people are exactly alike in any particular way, but weve
got to keep the numbers manageable here! Once you find out your particular
dosha (see chapter one), and the dosha of the person with whom you are
in relationship, then you can look up the chapter that corresponds to
the two of you. There youll find clues to how you interact with
each other, your communication styles (both physical and emotional),
and instinctual preferences with regard to food, travel, lifestyle,
and work, among others. This system shows us how we can please each
other and ourselves at the same time. It shows us how we can live in
harmony with those around us by recognizing a persons natural
qualities and bringing more love into the world.
If
you are looking to understand or strengthen a relationship with someone
other than your mate - say a colleague, friend, or child there are subsequent
chapters that will help you with that, too. And because we all have
a unique relationship with our environment, I have included a chapter
on that as well. Through your use of space and color, you can create
an environment where you feel inspired and blissful.
In
addition to Ayurveda, the Vedic texts are filled with wisdom that we
can use in all aspects of our relationships. There are ways that we
can flow with universal energy to live healthier and happier lives.
In this book we will explore the fundamentals of the ancient arts of
mantra, tantra, yoga, and Jyotish, and you will learn how they can all
teach you more about yourself. Growth is one of the fundamental laws
of nature. When we learn and grow, we are not only helping ourselves,
we are helping the whole world.
Love
is an amazing phenomenon - its the reason that all of us are here.
Its worth our study, our attention. Why are we attracted to the
people we are attracted to? Why is it that we feel as if we "cant
help" who we fall in love with? What is the chemistry that draws
us to certain people?
We
may never figure ourselves out. Or maybe we already have. Maybe the
ancient texts are right and all the answers we will ever need are available
to us now - we just need to keep learning and growing until we finally
"get it."
One
things for sure. Finding love and connection is one of the most
important "and pleasurable" things we come here to do. My
hope is that this book, with its ancient Indian secrets for keeping
love burning bright, will not only help you in your process of self-discovery,
but enable you to find and nourish the love matches of your dreams.
You will have tools to be better able to understand and accept people
for who they are, which will bring you closer to your friends and family.
And this newfound wisdom will also encourage productive and creative
ventures with your associates and co-workers. We're all in this together,
and we each have something wonderful to contribute.