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Ayurveda and Relationship
Who are you most compatible with?

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In her charming new book, Lisa Marie Coffey (Lissa Coffey) brings the timeless wisdom of Ayurveda to the contemporary audience and shows us how we can discover more about ourselves and our relationships.

Deepak Chopra, author of the New York Times bestseller How to Know God

Applying ancient wisdom to modern day relationships is beautifully executed by Lisa Marie Coffey (Lissa Coffey)in her book, What’s Your Dosha, Baby?: Vedic Insights for Life and Love. She not only shows you what type you are best suited for, she also shows strengths, compatibilities, and potential challenges. Read this before you make any personal relationship commitments!

Cherie Carter-Scott, Ph.D., author of If Love is a Game

From the preface:

Ask anyone and you’ll get the same answer: What’s the most important thing in life? Love! We want to be in love, and we want that love to last. So how do we go about finding that one person to share our lives with? And how do we live happily ever after with that person once we find him or her?

There are many ways of looking at our compatibility with other people such as the Mars/Venus theories and the Love Signs system based on astrology, among others. But long before any of these formulas were even a twinkle in the cosmos, hilosophers and scientists in Ancient India devised a system of health care called Ayurveda or the science of life. Within this holistic system lies everything we need to know about love.

Ayurveda explains the nature of everything in the universe. It is a compelling way of looking at all of life, the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Ayurveda "types" people according to their physical features and personality traits. Ayurveda tells us how we "tick," and how we relate to the rest of the world, including the other people in it! Once we understand the basics of Ayurveda, we see that we can get along with anyone. There are no "bad" matches! So whether you want to end the squabbling with your mate, you’re having a hard time with your boss, or your boyfriend just won’t commit, with this system of Ancient Indian Love Matches, you’ll find ways to make the relationship work.

It is impossible to go through this life alone. We all have relationships, people in our lives we interact with. The purpose of those relationships is to help us learn and grow. And more than that, the purpose of any relationship is to help us learn more about ourselves and who we really are.

When we understand who we are, and why we are here, everything seems to fall into place. We’re happier, more content, and we feel our connection to the universe. We attract like-minded people into our lives and our relationships become stronger.

According to Ayurvedic wisdom, there are four basic principles of life as discussed in the Upanishads, the sacred texts upon which Hinduism is built. These principles form the foundation of Ayurveda, and can be used to help us understand the role our relationships play in our lives.

There is an organizing power in the universe. The universe is intelligent, and creates harmony. There are no accidents or coincidences. Nothing is random. Everything happens for a reason. What does this mean for us? The people who are in our lives are there on purpose. What can we learn from them? How can we help them?

Everything that exists is living. Everything and everyone is made up of prakriti (material) and purusha (spirit). We vibrate with the life force inside of us and all around us. What does this mean for us? A relationship has a life of its own. How does a particular relationship serve us? How can it serve the world? How long is it meant to last?

All existence is interconnected. Everything in the universe, every pebble, bird, person, rainbow, is connected to every other thing in the universe. There is no separation between us. What does this mean for us? We are all connected in some way, shape, or form. So anything we do to another person, we do to ourselves. We need to be aware of feelings and emotions in a relationship and not cause any harm to each other.

The essence of everything is part of That the Divine Creative Force. We are connected to each other, and connected to the Whole, All That There Is, at the same time. What does this mean for us? Our actions have repercussions that resonate in the universe. When we’re happy and in love, that love lifts the energy around us. It’s contagious! Healthy relationships are essential to the health of the whole planet.

As important as our relationships are to us, how much time and effort do we really put into them? So often we go about living our lives and expect that another person either fits into that picture or doesn’t. But we each have needs, temperaments, and ideas about how we like things to be. When we better understand ourselves and each other, we can focus on what is important and what makes a relationship work.

When I first learned about Ayurveda, I was impressed with how simple and clear it made everything to me. The whole system just makes sense, and you can apply it to anything in your life! I’ve read lots of books about Ayurveda and even more books on relationships, but I’ve never come across one book that applied this age-old system to our very modern-day relationships. So I decided to work it out myself, and that is how this book came to be.

Because Ayurveda sees people as three different mind-body types, or Doshas, there are basically nine different "Love Matches." Of course in reality, there are an infinite number of ombinations, because no two people are exactly alike in any particular way, but we’ve got to keep the numbers manageable here! Once you find out your particular dosha (see chapter one), and the dosha of the person with whom you are in relationship, then you can look up the chapter that corresponds to the two of you. There you’ll find clues to how you interact with each other, your communication styles (both physical and emotional), and instinctual preferences with regard to food, travel, lifestyle, and work, among others. This system shows us how we can please each other and ourselves at the same time. It shows us how we can live in harmony with those around us by recognizing a person’s natural qualities and bringing more love into the world.

If you are looking to understand or strengthen a relationship with someone other than your mate - say a colleague, friend, or child there are subsequent chapters that will help you with that, too. And because we all have a unique relationship with our environment, I have included a chapter on that as well. Through your use of space and color, you can create an environment where you feel inspired and blissful.

In addition to Ayurveda, the Vedic texts are filled with wisdom that we can use in all aspects of our relationships. There are ways that we can flow with universal energy to live healthier and happier lives. In this book we will explore the fundamentals of the ancient arts of mantra, tantra, yoga, and Jyotish, and you will learn how they can all teach you more about yourself. Growth is one of the fundamental laws of nature. When we learn and grow, we are not only helping ourselves, we are helping the whole world.

Love is an amazing phenomenon - it’s the reason that all of us are here. It’s worth our study, our attention. Why are we attracted to the people we are attracted to? Why is it that we feel as if we "can’t help" who we fall in love with? What is the chemistry that draws us to certain people?

We may never figure ourselves out. Or maybe we already have. Maybe the ancient texts are right and all the answers we will ever need are available to us now - we just need to keep learning and growing until we finally "get it."

One thing’s for sure. Finding love and connection is one of the most important "and pleasurable" things we come here to do. My hope is that this book, with its ancient Indian secrets for keeping love burning bright, will not only help you in your process of self-discovery, but enable you to find and nourish the love matches of your dreams. You will have tools to be better able to understand and accept people for who they are, which will bring you closer to your friends and family. And this newfound wisdom will also encourage productive and creative ventures with your associates and co-workers. We're all in this together, and we each have something wonderful to contribute.

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